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What Marketers Can Learn From Facebook "Unfriending" Study

 

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Facebook UnfriendNamed 2009 "Word of the Year" by the New Oxford American Dictionary, "Unfriend" is used as a verb and the official definition is "To remove someone as a ‘friend’ on a social networking site such as Facebook."  What does it take to be removed as a 'friend'?   The answers are hardly surprising.  Those things that pretty much get you ostracized at a cocktail party, are considered to be poor online behaviors as well.

Recently, a University of Colorado Denver Business School student revealed the top reasons for Facebook unfriending, who is unfriended and how they react to being unfriended.

"Researchers spend a lot of time examining how people form friendships online but little is known on how those relationships end," said Christopher Sibona, a PhD student in the Computer Science and Information Systems program whose research will be published January by the Hawaii International Conference on System Sciences. "Perhaps this will help us develop a theory of the entire cycle of friending and unfriending."

1. Don't be boring. After surveying more than 1,500 Facebook users,  Sibona found the top reason for unfriending is frequent, unimportant posts.  "The 100th post about your favorite band is no longer interesting," he said.

2. Don't rant. The second reason was posting about polarizing topics like religion and politics.  Sibona added, ""They say not to talk about religion or politics at office parties and the same thing is true online."

3. Don't be rude. Inappropriate posts, such as crude or racist comments, were the third reason for being unfriended.

Hardly rocket science here, but let's think about these three reasons for unfriending might be applied towards marketing tactics and content creation. 

1. Don't be boring.  Sending the 99th email about your product without the "what's in it for me?" component, is sure to be a great turn-off.  And, is incredibly boring.  Creating remarkable content that your readers look forward to is a sure way to be considered less than boring.

2. Don't rant.  As a marketer you need to be on topic and communicate information that is relevant to your prospects. Ranting is selfish. Talking off topic in your marketing materials or on your blog is a quick way to lose the attention of your prospects.

3. Don't be rude.   We all get those "Well, if you aren't going to listen to me, then you aren't important to me or my sales funnel" emails...and they are rude.  Do you know why a sales person would consider engaging in a conversation with a prospect in such a manner?  I would relish the 100th "break up" or "unfriend" email after such an engagement.

What do you think?  Do prospects "unfriend" companies because of the marketing tactics employed? 

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COMMENTS

Some great tips to avoid being unfriended but I have found Facebook to be w weird place and not much action compared to Twitter.Facebook to me is a graveyard of social media has beens and two bit hustlers :)  
I do love this blog tho :)  
Stumbled

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 7:15 AM by John Sullivan


Facebook has potential for depth and self-reflecting musings. If only folks would use it. 
 
Twitter spews glitter, social media litter, and far too many abuse it. 
 

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 8:06 AM by John Sutton


It's a very valid lesson here. Businesses should be using social media to add value to the lives of their subscribers without all the spammy "buy from me" messages. People don't like that. If you add value to your audience's lives for free, you build trust with the audience. Social media is about connecting and building relationships. Occasionally (like 10-15% of the time) you can provide a way to add value for a nominal cost and some of your audience will buy from you. But if you are selling to them more than that, they're going to get turned off and unsubscribe.

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 8:28 AM by Matt Wegner


I have a "Facebook friend" that ONLY sends invites for bands. I don't even know if he's IN the bands. I'll be un-friending him soon. I'm mostly personal and put in store links when I get something in stock that I'm excited about.

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 9:16 AM by Angela


Intriguing post and a good reminder that human behavior transcends the business/personal chasm. Reminds me of the old adage that "businesses don't make buying decisions--people do."

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 9:28 AM by Michael Mallory


I am looking forward to the results of a study that is specifically related to Facebook Business Pages. In the University of Colorado Study they alluded to some work being started in this area. Though, there is a lot to learn from how individuals react to constant useless status updates. I tackled this subject on my blog is well, and am taking the suggestions posed here very seriously in my Facebook posts.

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 10:19 AM by Justin Rondeau - TemplateZone


I feel there is so much chatter on social media that a boring company won't necessarily be unfriended -- ranting or rude, probably. I think we expect companies to talk about their businesses... Emails, though, are a bit more intrusive; so I would expect people to unsubscribe to any that are boring, ranting or rude. Although I've never gotten one of “those 'Well, if you aren't going to listen to me, then you aren't important to me or my sales funnel' emails," if I ever do, be sure I would immediately unfriend them or unsubscribe!

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 11:51 AM by Charla Sindelar


I would like to see that study that Justin mentioned too. My belief is that people "unlike" business pages for 2 reasons:  
1) if the business offers irrelevant content and  
2) if the business bombards people that like their page with posts too frequently  
 

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 11:58 AM by Charles Scala


Thank you for this topic about unfriending and what leads to it. I totally agree about the don’t be rude and inappropriate posts. This is reason for un friending.  
 
 
 

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 3:14 PM by The Humble Executive


As I work my way towards becoming a grizzled veteran of Social Media, it becomes crystal clear that anything that is rude in real life doesn't fly in SM. Selling that won't work in Real Life won't work in Social Media. We all still must behave. If I won't hang with you at a cocktail party, I won't hang with you online, even if you do use your hot friend's picture to get me to accept the friend request... eventually I'll find you out and drop you... just like Real Life.

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 6:38 PM by Amy Tobin


I believe the 4th reason to be unfriended is never-ending self-promotion. We all have those friends (some are famous) who clog our feeds with "look at me at my book launch, interview, speech, visit with Oprah....."Send it to your family, they will keep applauding.

posted on Wednesday, October 20, 2010 at 10:32 PM by Robin Colner


This post very well depict how closely SM & real life are related. The things which make us unfriendly in real life make us the same in SM life too.

posted on Thursday, October 21, 2010 at 12:27 AM by Vandana


Great post! that's exactly what I try to teach people in my workshops - just be a normal person. You wouldn't wanna be boring or offensive or anything else. Just think about what message you would like to receive. 
 
we all have these facebook 'friends' who just keep on going about their awesome products - Buy, buy buy and that 5times a day... sometimes it would just be nice to see more common sense and emotional intelligence from businesses

posted on Thursday, October 21, 2010 at 3:57 AM by Marlene


I personally unfriend for repetitive and too promotional content. And, of course, for too many blasts. If I know you from college and you keep hitting me with messages from the company you work for, or sending me suggestions to like the same page over and over, then why are you in my list of "friends"? 
Maybe the right people will take this list into consideration.

posted on Thursday, October 21, 2010 at 4:46 AM by Alexandra


Always be nice especially to people you are only connected to online and people who can help you build your business. Don't forget to be polite and show gratitude.

posted on Friday, October 22, 2010 at 12:29 AM by Virtual Avatar


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