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Yep it works! Your article is so true. I was at the ISPA conference in Austin, Texas this past week @ISPA09 and 'accidentally' bumped in to all the right people (one of them retweeting and winning the prize). Today i followed up the old fashioned way via e-mail and next i will follow up again via social media.
I'm reading Dale Carnegie's Win Friends & Influence People for the second time, and this reinforces so many important principles from his book. These are tried and true methods that have worked for ages.
These are great reminders for us all.
We find it very hard in Florida to keep some networking events focused on biz. I find that the economy pushes people toward needing to feel connected more than usual. I think the key is in finding the balance of personal connection and business as we really need both.
Thank you for another great post. A big supporter of all you do!
Thanks
Pam Moore
Good information. I know that I have not mastered the first one 'to make people feel important' yet. I know that I have the ability to but something keeps me from doing it.
I loved Number 7. I too, forget this! Not that I am trying to one up, but I think I am agreeing and eagerly telling my story as a way to cement the moment. Forgetting that of course, I just stepped all over their story.
I believe this. I have a coworker that does all of this and I think he will go places for it. Doesn't know more than anyone else in our dept. but our boss LOVES him. He's always getting new responsibilities thrown his way. Irritating to us folks that are too shy to do what he does or simply don't want to put forth the effort. Guess that's more my fault than his so maybe I shouldn't be so judgmental. Hmmm something to think about.
All you have to do is care about other people and try to help them to be happy.
Great article
Great points - important in this age of "social media" not to forget the "social" part is about more than "collecting friends", but treating people right.
Internet marketing is really the trend to having a successful business today. Great blog.. Thanks for the tips
I love the one by the founder of Mary Kay, pretend everyone has a sign around their neck that says "Make me feel important." This is so easy to do and it really makes people's day. Everyone wants to know they matter to you. This is a perfect way to phrase the phenomenon.
nice list and good advice....although having to 'pretend' anything in forging relationships is dangerous in my view.
Although the words that wrap some of the above points are a bit in conflict, the fundamentals of authenticity, caring and truthfulness are solid. In fact if you have to navigate around these, then the connection will turn into a disconnect down the line.
I really like number 4 and have realized I do that, but a variance of that concept. Whenever I am in a meeting or listening to someone, I take notes. At first, people think it's kind of weird, but I tell them that because I value the time they take with me, I want to make sure I jot anything down that they've said.
It helps me remember the "main points" plus many have told me locally they appreciate the "journalistic" approach I take, when meeting with them.
Sure, I keep a small diary or dossier on everyone I meet, but it really helps me remember them more clearly and give me something to talk about again when I see them, whether in person or online in one of the social media realms.
I also like #7 and I have to admit, I have found myself making that same mistake. Usually it's too late, seeing the words out of my mouth, like a bubble in a cartoon! But now whenever I am listening to someone talk, I force myself to keep a clear mind and not think of what I want to say next. That also helps me to refrain from "one-upping" the storyline.
Thanks for bringing focus on connecting with all the right people! :-)
Ed Bisquera
This is really very good information.For success on online business we have to make one good reputation within our blogsphere and always have to try to learn from other.
Love the article. It's something new and different then what we usually read here or on related blogs :)
Wonderful article! I always knew that talking about common interests really helps, but #1 about the sign around a person's neck is so clever and easy to remember. Thanks!
Eric Melchor
http://onlinemediaanalyst.com
Honest, simple, great advice. People often overlook the reason they perhaps have one mouth and two ears.
Great tips! Each one addresses key points that many people may or may not do, and this is an excellent way to realize your strengths and weaknesses in networking.
Seeking out a common interest (#2) is the easiest yet one of the most effective tools for communicating with someone. Finding something that you can both relate to allows you to connect on a personal level and adds a new dimension to your relationship. People are more likely to remember you if you make a personal impact instead of a business impact.
Just be sure not to say anything bad about their favorite sports team if your team is a rival!
We posted that exact Mary Kay Ash quote on our Facebook page last week. It is a great piece of advise!
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